Looking at a situation from the perspective of an outsider is helpful for thinking things through. A ‘bird eye view’ helps you see yourself in a situation without considering a lot of opinions of different people. It is always advised to check your emotional attachment to it to cancel out the possibility of being a bias and strengthens objective evaluation.
Your mindset needs to make its own opinion. Other people’s opinion for one, can be reliable as well as unreliable.
Firstly, we must ask ourselves what an opinion is? How is it made? Why does it matter to me? And how much should I trust it?
- Opinion is a point of view, that a person has of a certain thing, person, event or scenario.
It is made up of your knowledge, experiences and mostly your ability to think it through….given the information, doubling it up with your prior knowledge upon the subject and keeping it in the light of your experiences in life, specifically pertaining to the subject under scrutiny.
- How much an opinion matter to you is directly proportional to how much that person matters to you and how respectable his views are for you.
- Entrusting an opinion should always be done with a pinch of salt…even in the best case scenario.
So, by the end of it if the decision is of a personal, private matter, it all comes down to your own judgement call…no matter who says what, it in the end will only affect you and the stakes that you’d put up or the risks you’ve taken.
But if the matter concerns people at large, a consensus should be made in order to keep personal bias at bay.
While dealing with a judgement call, here is the tricky part:
People are complicated, things are not life is not, situations/scenarios are not.
Things,life,scenarios are plainly as good or as bad as they are but “who sees it how” or which angle/approach or point is the issue for you or matter to you makes it complicated…
Complications make issues difficult to resolve. Usually, imbalanced emotions give birth to a lot of issues which makes logic fail at times. Logic, which is the sanest way to conclude things and makes life simpler… to the least….helps understand things as good or as bad as they are and not any better or worse. Also, very little is resolved through an emotional judgement approach.
Emotional judgement can be totally irrational or very systematic or “rational”.
Irrational emotional judgement can be described as any kind of out of proportions, “out bursts”….eg: Fighting, (calling names, crying, shouting, hitting), sulking or any other aggressive or passive behaviors which goes to its extreme.
Rational Emotional judgement considers morality, value system, ethics, religosity or sense of justice etc. It is important to note that these attributes are the key foundation stones for logic based judgement as well along with the factual data, current situation, behavioral patterns etc.
The main difference between rational emotional judgement vs logic based judgement is:
R.E.J: How much value is given in accord with your emotions.
L.B.J:The certainty with which you differentiate right from wrong. Leaving out no grey areas.
Ex1: Clearly Right.
Mostly, people are prone to morality. They prefer moral behaviors and actions. Given a choice, they would always choose moral decisions.
For some, morality is not their utmost priority.
For others, they are simply aloof. For example;
- The statement, ‘I won’t do it at all’.
- can change to, ‘I may or may not do it’.
- to completely, ‘I don’t care’.
Brings out the clear distinction of moral,immoral and amoral concepts. As transparent as moral behavior and act is, immorality and amorality bears a thin line of distinction.
Immorality is the lack of moral values to the point that they’d feel the guilt of committing a sinful act but would do it anyways. No shame!
whereas, Amorality can be described as without any values or the fact that anything getting done for whatever it takes matters more than how it got done. The feelings of guilt, shame, anger,disrespect or humiliation, embarrassment or even elation are not there. To cut it short, the feeling is neutral.
Moral: For a moral being won’t commit a bad deed. If he makes an intentional or unintentional mistake, a sense of remorse, regret, and guilt burns his soul unless he punishes himself till he feels clean and pristine again. The process of catharsis is beneficial to keep the morality intact. There is a great sense of responsibility.
Immoral: If committing a sin or crime is with the awareness of it being evil, even then shows no feel of guilt or responsibility for the consequences and without the dread for repetition, he may or may not justify the actions, is an immoral being who may even show jubilation for the devastation he caused.
Amoral: Amorality is that sense of neutralism in which a person does anything and everything without being aware of or judging it on the morality scale, he feels no remorse or regret or elation. He does not confuse his decisions with any of his actions or judgement calls on morality or what it might do to others. His decisions are based on pragmatic, realistic basis which only gets him through a rut by hook or by crook.
Having said it all, how people make sense to different things is different with every individual. The approaches are many, the options may be countable but the probability of who may choose what can’t be calculated.
Sometimes, people go through emotional turmoils & also check logic at every step simultaneously, to make sense…to find that balance that could define why emotions don’t qualify logic and logic can’t quantify emotions.
Who knows by the end of it and right when a decision should be made, what would out do every other thing.
People are not things you can box up. Their minds can’t be labelled as emotional or logical. There is no apparent reason for people to do what they do or did but instead a safe approach could be to think that they did what the situation called for, considering a lot of or a lot less of morality that surrounded them.
This is the sole reason why sometimes, some people act totally out of character.
You, say that they acted out of character because of their past behavioral patterns and the value they give to their morality. With time and usually very early in life, you develop a personal regulator.
This could also be a reason for stuff done as ‘one time thing’, as they fall under the “judgement error” or “human error” and is never repeated again and is usually ignored and pardoned.
But, what recurs is a habitual act, a personality trait and can be a serious morality issue… people who can’t act any better have a faulty value system or a non existent value system for that matter….So, the morality, immorality or amorality really has the characteristics which could describe a person’s character.
There are actions that make a man’s character. Then, there are characteristics that make up your decisions for your actions.By the end of it you see the ups and downs, the harsh scenarios, the changing seasons, the good times and the bad, but your character always stands tall. And more than others, you should know it very well.